We had no idea how we were sabotaging our relationships when we were just "working hard" to be successful.

Here we were again, texting "Finding parking now, be right there"... a message we could have put into a keyboard shortcut because we'd sent it so often. We were once again running "just a little behind", completely stressed out, blaming parking for why we were literally running in heals down an icy Chicago sidewalk because our friend had been waiting alone at the bar of a crowded downtown restaurant for over 30 minutes. But to be honest, it had nothing to do with parking, it wasn't even that we had left the office at the same time we were supposed to meet her. We were doing it AGAIN, a consistent pattern we started to recognize and neither of us was ok with any longer. 

We've all heard that old adage "You can't find the solution from the same thinking that created the problem". You need a new perspective or you will just relive the same situations. We were finally seeing a new p...